A Glossary of Terms
His-story = The view of humanity’s past, based upon our current culture (see below), in which civilization is the best that man can achieve and the only way humans are meant to live. In his-story, the human story begins with the agricultural revolution 10,000 years ago and has followed a path of triumphant progress and technological, intellectual, and artistic advancement since then.
Current Culture, The World/Our World = The present, globalized worldview which upholds the following values: money/possessions/power over people/tribe/nurture; continual accumulation/increase (in population and in acquisition); productivity/efficiency. These values characterize a masculine way of being in the world, in contrast with the values of the universal feminine: relationship/connection/interrelation, existence/being, enjoyment of the moment-by-moment process of life, intuition, mystery, interdependence, and nurture.
Work (in our current culture) = To sell one’s time and energy in exchange for money, usually involving some degree of forcing oneself to do something or going against one’s internal balance (i.e. working at a corporate job, truck-driving, answering phones in an office, or working tiring hours even if you like what you do). Does not include bread labor (see the following).
Bread Labor = Daily activities which sustain us. i.e. cooking food, washing clothes, bathing, growing/harvesting food, cleaning house.
Co-creation = Using one’s hands to re-form existing materials into one’s own design (i.e. shaping metals into tools, turning a lawn into a garden, making shelves or furniture out of wood, weaving fabric out of plant and animal fibers, sewing clothing out of cloth, playing music, creating artwork).
Cutthroat Competition = Our culture’s view of the world, in which every living being is pitted against all others in a battle over scarce resources. Security is gained through elimination or extermination of competitors, as in our totalitarian style of agriculture or the board game “Monopoly”.
Totalitarian Agriculture = An approach to obtaining sustenance which values human existence above all others and seeks to convert as much land as possible into human food as well as exterminate any perceived competitors (such as wolves, weeds, insects, or native peoples) who might limit the efficiency and exponentially increasing productivity of our farming. This lifestyle, although it has enabled us to generate great excess, requires that people focus all their attention on working in the fields rather than having time to rest or do anything in a leisurely fashion. This contrasts with other more cooperative forms of agriculture and horticulture which encourage diversity and value other creatures’ and other peoples’ contributions to the community of life, allowing equal space for them. These ways of life don’t produce overwhelming excess, but they do allow time for people to rest, make ceremony, tell stories, and play with children.
Happiness = Fulfillment of desire; contentment. In the current culture, this contentment is often contingent upon satisfaction with results and achievements.
Happen-ness = Appreciation of whatever happens in the moment.
Joy = Pleasure in the pursuit of desire. The spark and excitement we experience from fully engaging in the co-creative journey of life.
Trigger = (triggered, triggers, triggering). A sensitive place in someone’s emotional body which, when touched upon, provokes a reaction that pours out wounded emotional energy. Triggers are often unhealed areas of our psyche: aspects of ourselves we can’t accept due to not having been accepted by others or by our cultural training in the past. Self-acceptance is the balm for these wounds.
React / Reaction = Responding immaturely to a situation without thinking. (i.e. “Someone said something mean to me so I insulted them.”)
Emotional Stability/Maturity = Being able to notice and experience one’s emotions fully without losing the ability to choose how to act. (i.e. “Someone said something to me and I felt mad, so I chose to take some time alone to experience my feelings before returning to the conversation much calmer.”)
Mirroring = Insight offered from one person to another about the reasons behind our actions, offered and received as a gift. Different from sarcasm, which offers criticism at someone’s expense. Also different from simply telling someone how you feel, which can be draining for the listener who receives a lot of pain-filled emotional energy. Mirroring is done from a level-headed, non-triggered place, with the intention of improving someone else’s life by helping them see the world and their actions more clearly.
Grok = To fully understand down to one’s bones.
Kin = People of like mentality and shared values. (Conventional definitions of kin specifically involve blood relations but this one does not.)
Kin-unity = A group of people who are dedicated to each other and depend on each other daily for food, companionship (or kin-panionship), shelter, security, and mirroring, where-in each person considers it in their best interest to help all the others to be well and to become more mature. Members of a kin-unity think: “What’s best for the group is best for me. I take care of myself because it is good for the group for me to feel nurtured and joyful. When I have energy to give, I seek ways to improve the lives of my kin-panions who nurture me daily with their joy, wisdom, and bread labor.”
Bedroom Community = A living arrangement in which people share a piece of land or living space but spend most of their time independently working or otherwise away from home, such that people depend very little on each other for daily sustenance, companionship, and security, and where it is not necessarily in each person’s interest to take care of the others.
Cooperation = “What’s best for the group is best for me” mentality. Because it is best for the group to have a joy-filled and loving environment, each person does their very best to take care of their self through daily exercise and nutrition, sleep, alone time when needed, and self-acceptance. Cooperators encourage each other to develop strong self-care habits, value each other’s company highly, and mirror for each other.
Collaboration = “I’m in charge of my own life, and you’re in charge of yours, and we can pool resources.” Like a refrigerator separated into cubbies for each household member, each person owns a piece of their shared experience. Each person is expected to contribute their allotted amount independently and if unable to do so, simply withdraws from the group.
Interdependence = When two or more people (or other beings) rely upon each other for their existence, including daily sustenance as well as feeling safe and secure in the world. More intimate and committed than mere collaboration, yet healthier than codependence.
Codependence = When two or more people cannot live without each other. They build their entire world around each other and need each other in order to feel safe and secure, but they don’t support each other to develop their personal power and take care of their self. Leads to a lot of emotional turmoil, since the two (or more) people cannot always be available to provide for each other’s needs and aren’t able to provide for their own.
Civilization = The act or process of removing people from the presumably savage and barbaric “tribal” life into a higher and better way of life. This is accomplished through locking up the food (and other necessities) and using it to force people to work long hours.
Paradigm = Deeply held set of beliefs about the way things are and what is important. An individual’s or a culture’s story of the world.
Power = A person’s ability to convince other people to do what they want, usually through fear.
Personal Power = A person’s attitude and overall strength of spirit, brightness, and self-worth.
Dis-ease = Emotional-spiritual imbalances which manifest physically as well.
Spirit = The spark and energy of life which moves through all things; the animating force. In a person, the vital energy or spunkiness they express and have access to.
Soul = The individual incorporeal essence of a person which inhabits the body but continues on after death. This concept in our current culture contains an implied hierarchy of “more evolved” and “less evolved” souls. There is disagreement as to what kinds of beings have souls, but generally it is presumed that rocks, dirt, and plants have no individual soul and are by implication less enlightened or more basic beings.
Culture = The set of agreed-upon beliefs, values, behaviors, and priorities of a group of people which comprise their way of life.
Society = A culture characterized by a great degree of stratification.